Savour has been good word to choose this year.
I've found, thinking about it and observing myself as I move through the day, that quiet, peaceful tranquil times are easy to savour. It's the loud, noisy, conflicting times that I need to work on.
I realise, in fact, that I've been working on it for some time... I had 'This Too Shall Pass' tattooed on my arm to remind me - that good times pass, so make the most of them, that difficult times pass - so make the most of them!
Near the end of last year I read The Mastery of Love by Don Migeuel Ruiz and one thing that has really stuck with me is the idea that you can only do your side of the relationship, that many people try and do both their side AND the other person's side - and when the other person doesn't replicate your expectations, this leads to upset...
For some reason, this approach has really worked for me. It's helping me free myself up to be the type of person I want to be - its easier to be a calm parent, when you're just concentrating on being a calm person, irrespective of the outcome... The other person is responsible for what they do, after all, I'm just responsible for what I do, and how I choose to interpret and react to their actions.
Am I always a calm oasis in the eye of the storm? Um...
Well maybe I have a *little* more practice to do...
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I think what you wrote is so true. trying to identify my issues and their issues has helped me loads over the years. Still have work to do but its definitely been better.
I must say, just being in my 30s - everything is MUCH easier
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